"True Love"

Well, I am not for sure if anyone really reads my blog, but I have come to the conclusion that if for anyone, I write it for me. I write it to remember feelings, situations and maybe one day so our children can read it and know what was happening in our lives.

To most people love means mushy, gushy, funny feelings that you get when you look at someone or think about that special someone. I have seen many people walk away from each other because that funny feeling in their stomach just wasn't there anymore and the work became to hard. Well, after 13 years I find out what “true love” means more and more each day. True love isn’t hanging out and being there when things are going great and everything is going our way. It’s not having our own way and having everything we dreamed of when we want it. It isn’t just working hard and enjoying what we think we’ve earned or deserve. I am learning slowly but surely what true love is. What I have learned and am continuing to learn is that “true love” is something that is tested many times in a marriage (just to see if you are in it for the long haul). I have learned that “true love” loves you even when you don’t look to good or in fact look terrible, which in fact I have a few times. “True Love” is just being there for the other person when that person watches a parent fail and ultimately die. “True Love” is there for each other when dreams fall apart and disappear and new ones are created. “True Love” doesn’t expect perfection but takes you for who you are and stills love you. “True Love” holds your hand when you are near, but holds your heart when miles separate us. “True Love” puts your trust in the other person even if they don’t completely understand. “True Love” loves you when you are not so lovable. “True Love” gives you hope when no hope seems to be anywhere around. “True Love” is there when you’ve cried the last tear you have, and tries to make you smile. “True Love” stays when it would have been much easier to walk away. “True Love” loves you when love (and God) are all you have. “True Love” tells you what you need to hear sometimes, even when you don’t necessarily what to hear it. “True Love” also picks up the slack when you just don’t feel like you can go on. But, with all of this that “True Love” does, it doesn’t leave the other behind or it doesn’t give up.
I am experiencing and have experienced "True Love". My husband of almost 13 years is my "True Love". We are not perfect, and we continue to learn each day. Love is work, but it is worth all of the effort. Sure there are days when we get on each other's nerves, but we try to hang on. There have been stressors in our lives just like anyone else's, parents, children, losses, struggles, etc. I could go on, but we have also experience the most wonderful joys together. Mike makes me laugh so hard sometimes, he picks me up when I am at my lowest. We have helped each other to care for our parents and to help each other deal with their deaths. We have lost dreams, but we worked together to create new ones, and thank God we did.
Now a days many people just walk away because love is just to hard and things don't go as planned. "True Love" is hard work, but well worth it!
Happy Valentines Day Mike!