Thursday, March 5, 2009

Missing Mom

Well, as you can tell from the title it has been one of those days. But, the more I think of it, it has been a little more than that. I believe that it is just one of those times where I just truly miss my mom. Don't get me wrong, I miss my mom all of the time, but trust me when I say that when your parents have died, you find that you miss them more at some times than others. Well, lately, I have sure missed mine. My mom and I were very close and we pretty well knew what the other was thinking. My mom knew me very well and could tell when something was bothering me, or when I just needed to blow off steam, or needed to let some tears fall, she was always there. We shared many conversations and would talk about simple things to very indepth things. I loved our talks, and I valued her opinion as well as her criticisms:). She always said that if you don't want my opinion or advice then don't ask. She would never really interfere or give an opinion unless she was asked. I sure miss those opinions and her guidance. She knew when I needed to be told the truth even if I really didn't want to hear it, but she also knew when I needed a hug or a shoulder to cry on. I knew I could always depend on mom (and she told me she felt them same about me). She was one of my two best friends (Mike being the other). She was the strongest woman that I know, she never gave up no matter how bad things got. Many have no idea some of the things my mom went through, but she still kept on going. She was always there for us kids no matter what, and we always knew that. She was the glue that held us together. I would sure like to share different things that have happened in my life recently. I hate it that my two youngest never got to meet her. I would love to ask her opinion on different things, or have a laugh with her. I hate it that she never got to see me go to Africa and back, I know as much as it would have scared her to see me go, she would have been so proud that I did go and did it by myself (I know that she would have said, "I knew you could do it all along"). I know that she would be proud of me, but I would just love to have her here to hear her say it. I miss our talks, her wonderful sense of humor, her sarcasm (I get it honest), her hugs, her advice and her confidence. I guess the best way to say it is, I just miss my mom.
Go hug your mom today, or just give her a call and talk, trust me, you'll miss it when you can't do it anymore.

1 comment:

Pam said...

Hey,we must be on the same wave length this week.I've been feeling the same way.I also have been more understanding about the things mom had to go through with us.Sometimes when your kids hearts are breaking and you know you can't fix it,your heart breaks right along with theirs.Sometimes being a mom just isn't that easy but I wouldn't trade it for anything.It's just sad to think mom didn't have dad when I know she needed him to talk to or just to be with.She was and always will be a great influence in alot of the things I say and do in my life.Tyler sometimes says gosh mom you sound just like mama.I love that.Sometimes I wish we could turn back time just so I could say or do things I didn't but I wouldn't want mom to suffer.I'm just glad I had her to be my mom.Miss you sister,been thinking about you.I know you are getting ready for Thomas's birthday.I'm still trying to kick this flu bug but I'm getting better.I'll call soon!Love you Pam